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3 Crucial Moments To Remain Silent or Risk Saying Regrettable Words Or Making Unfulfilled Promises. No.2 Have Got Many Into Unbelievable Troubles.

Words are cheap, mostly when not said and very expensive to retrieve when said carelessly. We all have ' freedom of speech ' but sometimes lose the freedom after the speech. Words are more powerful than what we can ever imagine, as well constructed words have the power to build and unconstructed careless words have the power to destroy whatever has been built not minding how long it took in building it. Most of us have in many cases wished if we could take back the words we have spoken before because of the damages it have caused. But none have wished to speak in times they remained silent. Silence is a better action in most cases than careless loud words said out of emotions. Lisa Kleypas once said, "Many times in life I've regretted the things I've said without thinking. But I've never regretted the things I nearly said as much as the words I left unspoken". So many times words are vomited on how we feel and what we intend without thinking about the consequences of such words, that is why I've carefully stated with clearity the 3 best crucial times to remain silent with a smile or walk away without exchanging words or Making promises out of emotions.

1. When Heartbroken.

Heartbreak don't only come from relationship, but other things around life can still leave us Heartbroken. Things like the death of a loved one, Business failure, Exam failure, Health Issues, Setbacks etc. Tackling most of this and getting a positive result requires remaining positive. In most cases our minds are programmed to think negatively at most of this moments and when we speak it's always filled with careless and negative words. It's the ability to remain 'silent' that will help in getting over such a crucial moment without saying negative and uncensored words.

2. When Angry.

Speaking while angry or when provoked have led many into different kinds of trouble and unimaginable demotion in life. When we are angry we experience hurt from within and every words that might come out will be to get the person who hurt us feeling more hurt than we are experiencing, and this is done by using highly unfiltered words and sometimes leads to revealing the other person's secrets or laying threats or abuses. Ambrose Bierce said "Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret". And that is so true. In Moments when we are provoked or hurt, it's always best to walk away silently without saying any words than saying something and sounding unreasonable. Maurice Switzer said "It is better to remain silent at the risk of being thought a fool, than to talk and remove all doubt of it". Most times when angry we speak out of emotions and don't have the ability to think right which leads to careless words.

3. When Over Excited.

Most times out of joy, promises we can't and don't know how to fulfill are made. I once read a story of a couple that have being married for 27 years without a child giving birth to twin on the 28th year anniversary of their marriage and out of excitement the man made promises he wasn't able to fulfill and that led to the end of the marriage. When happy and filled with joy it's always advisable to just smile and say thank you than make any promise, because at that moment you won't be able to think right and make the right promise as you are already thinking based on emotions.

knowledge they said people parish because they lack it and wisdom they said is profitable to direct. The above 3 situations have silent as it's best winner and unreasonable words as it's best Regrettable loser, so you are expected to 'keep quiet and think while heartbroken, keep quiet and walk away while angry or provoked and to smile and rejoice while happy without making promises'. It's always better to promise less and deliver more than to promise more and deliver less.

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt heartbroken? angry or provoked? or made promises out if joy? share your experience with us😁